School is full of exciting learning opportunities as well as numerous challenges. It absorbs a significant amount of a child’s life, and it can become a source of great stress if it is not well-handled. For example, while it is understandable and totally normal for children to make mistakes throughout the educational process, a child can be fairly tough on himself when he recognizes he has made a mistake, especially if he feels he lacks the support he needs in order to overcome the challenges he faces. Fortunately, this can be protected against if the child has a positive attitude.
How to Teach Positive Thinking
Your child’s attitude in school can have an enormous impact on how well they do in school, so it is very worthwhile to help them cultivate a positive attitude. A child with a positive attitude will not only be better able to face the challenges he encounters in school, he will be better prepared to successfully overcome them. And the truth is that developing positive thinking in children is not actually very difficult, because unless they are taught otherwise or they routinely encounter significant problems and difficulties, most children tend to think positively as a matter of course. That said, there are some ways that you can further encourage this:
- Teach them to focus their attention on the positive parts of their day. When asked about their day, some children may tend to focus on a negative part that is bothering them. It’s okay to let them tell you about this, but don’t let the discussion end there on that negative part of their day. Instead, encourage them to talk about the positive parts of their day that they enjoyed, which may include a fun story they read (or heard), a friend they enjoyed playing with, a fun project they participated in or some other thing.
- Be interested in what they have to say, and acknowledge their positive activities. You can boost a child’s self-confidence enormously by showing them that they are important. How do you show them that they are important? By listening to them and acknowledging their positive activities. When they tell you about their hopes, dreams and accomplishments, really listen to what they have to say and make a point of acknowledging those positive things that you have noticed they are saying or doing.
- Encourage them to solve their own problems, rather than solving their problems for them. It can be an enormous blow to a child’s self-confidence if they feel that they are not only encountering problems, but they are encountering problems that are beyond their ability to solve. Instead, talk with the child and gently guide the conversation as necessary so that they figure out solutions to their own problems.
- Consider how you are speaking to your child, and make sure you are presenting them with a wonderful example to follow. Children learn largely through mimicry, so when you speak slowly, calmly and positively to your child you are actually teaching them to be calm and positive. This can be especially helpful when your child feels frustrated or angry, as you are essentially demonstrating that there is a way to approach the situation. This type of attitude can help your child to recognize that you are their friend, which can help them feel more comfortable about coming to you for help when they need it.
- Show your child that you think positively. While the challenges you encounter in life are definitely markedly different from the challenges your child encounters, you can nonetheless show them that the best way to handle these challenges is through thinking positively. Children are generally extremely observant, and seeing you think positively can help them to understand that this is a wonderful way to work through difficulties.
With a positive attitude, your child can approach school as an exciting adventure, and have an amazing school year.